The Key To Stop Yelling In Anger At Your Kids-And Why Anger Is NOT A Sign Of Unforgiveness!

8 Comments

The Key To Stop Yelling In Anger At Your Kids, And Why Anger Is Not A Sign Of Unforgiveness

I thought I had forgiven them.

But night after night I woke suddenly, flooded with memories that came to me as vividly as the day the incident happened.

My breathing would quicken, my heart would plummet, and then the tears would flood my pillow. Eventually, the dreams would lessen, but try as I may, I couldn’t stop remembering the horrible situation or question how someone could be so bent on hurting me.

I genuinely felt no desire for revenge. In fact, I had tried my best to reach out-to make peace.

They weren’t interested.

I meant them no harm and often prayed for them that God would work in their hearts-even bless them. I considered ways I could do good towards them-as difficult as that seemed at the time. I was exercising a supernatural kind of love-the kind of love that chooses to do so against every natural instinct. A love that seeks to glorify God and embody His strength in my weakness.

So why was the hurt still there? Why was I still feeling so indignant and at times….ANGRY?

Had I not forgiven them after all?

The anger I felt surprised me. Try as I may, I couldn’t get rid of the anger.

The answer came to me recently. In Genesis 3, God speaks to Satan and tells him that He is placing “enmity” between mankind and himself as a punishment for tempting Adam and Eve in the Garden.

Enmity means “a violent hostility” or “the strongest kind of hatred” that mankind is capable of exercising.

Essentially, God gave us enmity between us and Satan so that we would HATE what is evil and direct our anger in a righteous way-towards our enemy, the Devil. Instead of trying to eradicate our anger, we need to redirect it.

Kevin Weaver, in his book, Re_Orient, says:

“To realize love’s ideal, we must love and hate-we must learn to properly wield both violent love toward people and violent hatred toward evil and the enemy who creates it, both at the same time and both equally well.”

Isn’t that freeing?!

The coinage, “Hate the sin, love the sinner” rings truer in this light, doesn’t it? God is our Healer and He does give us total freedom from our sorrows-but sometimes, the offenses and hurts in our lives take time to heal. I’m thankful that we can be patient in that process and not add guilt to our mentality when we still feel anger over sin and its effects on us in this world. Instead of focusing on getting rid of my anger, the anger I felt simply needed to be placed where it was due-towards my true enemy.

I believe this applies very closely in my everyday life as a mother too. I currently co-manage a group for The MOB Society that helps moms deal with anger and yelling towards their children. In 6 months, we have swelled to more than 6,000 members.

The need is great.

Moms (and Dads!) struggle with anger on a regular basis. The Truth about enmity applies here too. Why are we flying off the handle when our kids lie to us? Why do we erupt when they disobey us? And how do we break the cycle of anger and yelling?

If this is a struggle for you, PLEASE watch this video where I explain enmity and anger even further and apply it to the relationship between parent and child. Take a moment to pause and pray before watching and ask the Holy Spirit to open your heart to what He would have for you.

Is this freeing for you too? Are you able to have better self-control over your anger when you know that it is really a gift and a healthy emotion that God has instilled in us? Does it make more sense now how you can be angry…and NOT sin?

YOUR TURN! Perhaps you have some redirecting to do. I would be honored to pray for you. Would you let me know how I can pray for you as you reflect on anger and enmity in the light of forgiveness or as a parent?

Follow me on Facebook for more inspiration and discussion! Find me on Twitter: Amber Lia and Instagram: MotherOfKnights. Start pinning on Pinterest as well!

10 Bible Passages For Exhausted Parents

8 Comments

 10 Bible Passages For Exhausted Moms And Dads

Having a newborn feels like you are experiencing the best kept secret of your life. It’s a kind of joy that you didn’t know was possible.  Motherhood is exhilarating!

And exhausting.

I will never forget the absolutely mind-numbing fatigue that my husband Guy and I felt after our first son, Oliver, was born with severe reflux and colic.

He was NOT a sleeper. It didn’t matter what we tried (and we tried everything).

My mind was absolute sludge. I’m still not quite sure how we survived. Our little boy was absolutely adorable and we loved him. That’s how he survived.

We eventually had two more sons and although they both were better sleepers than their big brother, all babies require a lot of attention-even during the night. And that means that most moms are pretty exhausted in those early months. My oldest is almost 8-years-old and to be honest, I’m still dragging my feet most mornings.

This post is for all those exhausted moms (and dads!)-maybe even moms who don’t have newborns but kids with other issues that are keeping them up at night too! It’s not just babies that need us during the night at times! It can be our toddlers, our teens, or even our own health issues or anxious thoughts.

Parenting while sleep-deprived is not an excuse for snappy behavior or being irritable and stressed. That’s exactly how I felt so many times but giving in to my impatience, frustration, and snippiness does not honor God. Instead, it should be an opportunity for me to rely even more on the Holy Spirit to refine me.

 In that spirit, here are:

10 PASSAGES FOR EXHAUSTED PARENTS

 And my God will supply every need of yours according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:19

 But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me. 2 Corinthians 12:9

 I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. I can do all this through him who gives me strength. Philippians 4:12-13

 He gives power to the faint, and to him who has no might he increases strength. Isaiah 40:29

 When the righteous cry for help, the Lord hears and delivers them out of all their troubles. The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit. Many are the afflictions of the righteous, but the Lord delivers him out of them all. He keeps all his bones; not one of them is broken. Psalm 34:17-20

 Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Matthew 11:28

 For we do not have a high priest who is unable to empathize with our weaknesses, but we have one who has been tempted in every way, just as we are—yet he did not sin. Let us then approach God’s throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need. Hebrews 4:15-16

 Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things. Whatever you have learned or received or heard from me, or seen in me—put it into practice. And the God of peace will be with you. Philippians 4:8-9

 Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be frightened, and do not be dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.” Joshua 1:9

 But they who wait for the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings like eagles; they shall run and not be weary; they shall walk and not faint. Isaiah 40:31

 Moms and Dads, this time of exhaustion is a CHAPTER. It’s not necessarily forever, even though it may feel like it. The main thing that we must remember is that God allows every circumstance in our lives as an opportunity to become more like Christ. Trust in Him to give you the strength and sustenance you need to thrive-even when you are deeply fatigued. My prayer is that each of you that finds yourselves in this place of either physical, spiritual, or emotional exhaustion will be refreshed and restored by the washing of the Word of God. May you be blessed and encouraged from one formerly maxed out mom to another!

YOUR TURN! Are you an exhausted parent? I would love to pray for you-share your request with me in the comments!

Follow me on Facebook for more inspiration and discussion! Find me on Twitter: Amber Lia and Instagram: MotherOfKnights. Start pinning on Pinterest as well!

What I Sense 2015 Needs To Be (And My Top Posts From 2014)

13 Comments

What I Sense For 2015

The end of the year is a little different for me because it is literally the end of a year of my life. My birthday was a few days ago and so even though some people hate resolution making my mind and body yearn for it.

I get a double dose of reflection as I contemplate my birthday and the New Year and it’s never a bad thing for me.

As years go over the last 8 or 9, 2014 was pretty good. If you have read my blog for any length of time, you might notice that I often write to encourage people through hard times and loss and that’s because I have been in valleys and valleys and valleys and valleys of hard times and loss. It’s what I know. But I also know the goodness of God in it.

No one told me that valleys could last for years on end. I wasn’t really prepared for it.

And yet I was.

My parents raised me to memorize Scripture every week and having that foundation in my heart of hearts has always been my sanity-saver and life-giver. I have come to know that the best preparation for life I can ever give my boys is to teach them to memorize Bible verses. Nothing else is more important to me.

All these years of unemployment, big moves across the state and back, loneliness, betrayal from friends, starting a business, trying to get my books published, medical diagnosis I can’t even bring myself to share publicly yet, miscarriages, and lots of conviction from the Holy Spirit to honor my promise to hunger and thirst for righteousness more than anything else has brought me through the ringer these past several years.

But I pray that if you met me you would NEVER KNOW IT.

I want to be quick to smile and radiate joy no matter what. I want to waft with the scent of the Fruit of the Spirit. Look like I’m standing on a rock that is higher than I. Have something left to pour out instead of running on empty. Make myself beautiful by the Word. God has been so good to me to teach me to persevere and to be more than a conqueror.

If I can do it, you can too!!! After all, it is Christ who strengthens us!

So these past couple years as I’m learning how to be a passionate Christ-follower with more radicalism, I have swung open the windows of my heart and let you in to take a look with the hope that some of what I’m learning would resonate with you too.

And you all showed up-even when I stopped blogging for MONTHS in a row after we lost our twins this year. In fact, more of you came. I’m so thankful for you-you have no idea how much your prayers have meant to me this year. 

As part of my reflection over this year and my deep gratitude that God has always been good even in the hard times, I dug up my top 10 posts that I wrote in 2014. I hope they will continue to bless someone who needs to read them. Maybe you can share the one that meant the most to you.

I sense in my spirit that my daily prayer needs to continue to seek God and pursue HIM more than anything else in my life. I hear the Lord whispering in my heart that 2015 must be all about that continued hunger and thirst for righteousness. Will you do me the honor of praying that for me? Thank you, friends. I’m looking forward to seeing what God will do with us this year! To Him be the glory!

TOP 10 POSTS FROM 2014

#1 I Don’t Expect My Kids To Obey With A “Happy Heart!”

#2 It’s Not A Witching Hour, Christian Mom

#3 The One Person You Must Unfriend On Facebook

#4 I’m Waving The White Flag Of Motherhood Because It Feels Too Hard

#5 How To Find The Perfect Husband Even Though You Are Already Married

#6 Better In The Arms Of Jesus, My Miscarriage

#7 A Book List That Will Change Your Life

#8 7 Tips For Parents, My Pet Peeves At Public Parks

#9 The Day I Let 2 Kids Walk Away With An Abusive Mom

#10 When You Can’t Give Your Kids Disneyland

YOUR TURN! What Spiritual change do you sense is needed for yourself in 2015?

Follow me on Facebook for more inspiration and discussion! Find me on Twitter: Amber Lia and Instagram: MotherOfKnights. Start pinning on Pinterest as well!

What It’s Like To Dine At Gordon Ramsey’s Hell’s Kitchen!

3 Comments

What It's Like To Dine At Hell's Kitchen

Last week, my husband Guy and I got the rare opportunity to experience eating at Gordon Ramsey’s Hell’s Kitchen! My husband and I have been fans of Fox’s Hell’s Kitchen for years, so actually dining at Gordon Ramsey’s infamous restaurant with would-be chefs in the making was a dream come true!

Here’s the inside scoop on our dining experience with details about what it’s like to dine under the cameras and amidst the chaos of Hell’s Kitchen!

 GETTING ON THE SHOW

 People always want to know how to get tickets to Hell’s Kitchen and for good reason.

It’s NOT easy.

My husband and I both work in the entertainment industry and we have several friends who work on the show. That’s the short and sweet version of how we made it there, but even then, we missed the initial calls trying to confirm our reservation and at the very last-minute, they squeezed us in!

It was incredibly kind of the good people in casting to do so for us because we don’t get a fun date night out very often and we had our babysitter all lined up in anticipation. There are waivers to sign too-that’s the norm when you appear on camera for any show! It’s also super important that none of the guests dining in the restaurant have any food allergies.

You have to eat what they serve you! If you get any food at all…….

 THE ARRIVAL and WHAT TO WEAR

 Hell’s Kitchen is a fine dining restaurant, so the dress code is upscale casual. I chose black slacks, a color-block blouse with black and white on the bottom and turquoise at the neck, a yellow clutch, and gold stilettos! My husband Guy wore a nice suit minus the tie!

What We Wore To Hell's Kitchen!

What We Wore To Hell’s Kitchen!

Our taping was set for a Monday night. Hell’s Kitchen films in Van Nuys, CA these days so it wasn’t a long drive for us at all which is good because you need to arrive well before the typical dinner hours. They suggest you have a snack before the show in case one of the two teams gets kicked out of the kitchen and you go home hungry!

We were greeted by friendly security and then drove to the entrance of the restaurant where a gorgeous red carpet awaited and valet staff took our car for us. Casting staff met us on the red carpet and took us to a beautiful spacious room draped in black curtains where about 30 people were already ahead of us. The tables were set with appetizers like cheese plates and fruit, as well as choices of wine, beer, or soft drinks. White comfy couches, lounge tables, and a coat check made the ambience complete! The staff came across as genuine, kind, attentive, and happy. They took our picture and made us feel like valued guests! Casting went out of their way to tell us that they knew we were on date night and wanted to be sure and squeeze us in. So kind!!  A great start to a fantastic evening!

A waiter eventually greeted us and offered a leather-bound menu so that we could pre-select both our appetizer and our entrees of which there were two choices. We both chose the same appetizer but different entrees. More on that soon!

One of our friends came down from her office to say hello so we passed the time chatting with her and catching up. WE LOVE HER, and not just because she helped us get in to the show. J

 GLAMOUR WAGON

There are no bathrooms in the actual restaurant so if you have to take care of business, there are wagons set up with porta-potties but it’s not what you think. These babies are glamorous!

It’s almost like stepping into a “real” bathroom-nice dark wood paneling, beautiful sinks with large mirrors, several doors to choose from, and places to set your belongings down while you do your thing. Think the Taj Mahal of outhouses!

 THE RESTAURANT

Eventually, we were taken in small groups to the red carpet, lined up, and told our table number. I love booths so I was hoping we would get one of the few available. Sure enough, they gave us a booth! I took Guy’s arm and then much like waiting to walk down the aisle for a wedding ceremony, we made our way a few seconds behind the couple in front of us and walked down the hallway leading into Hell’s Kitchen.  Portraits of past Hell’s Kitchen winners graced the walls.

Entrance To Hell's Kitchen (Side View)

Entrance To Hell’s Kitchen (Side View)

We walked up a couple of steps past a chic bar area, strolled past TV cameras that zoomed in for close-ups, and were taken straight to our booth to one side of the restaurant.

Hell’s Kitchen did not seem like a set-it was stunning!

The decor was absolutely beautiful. Modern chandeliers hung from the ceiling, the tables were draped in fine linens, and the soft gray suede of our high-backed booth allowed us to dine in comfort. Our waitress was friendly and quick to smile. We spent time chatting with her and trying to understand exactly what the process would be for the evening. She brought us our beverages-wine, soda, sparkling water, and beer as well as a bread basket filled with no less than 5 varieties of breads and butter. We dug in!

The ambience was perfection. Elegant. Shades of white, silver, gold, and turquoise graced the walls, tables, chairs, and overall decor. The restaurant itself was quieter than I anticipated, and MUCH HOTTER. They don’t call it Hell’s Kitchen for nothing, people. We were sweating-but that was the only discomfort. The restaurant was truly beautiful!

Across the dining room, Gordon Ramsey stood sweating with a pencil behind his ear and a serious look on his face. The kitchen was HUMMING and there was DRAMA, although I can’t tell you of what nature since the show has not yet aired. Chef Ramsey clearly takes his role as a mentor and master chef seriously and I was thankful that he was there to inspect the food we would soon (hopefully!) be eating. He wasn’t at all distracted by the cameras or dozens of diners in the room.  It was exciting to watch and definitely surreal to see the master at work!

Not everyone in the restaurant had the same experience we did, but you will have to watch the episodes to find out!

 THE FOOD

We prayed that our food would actually arrive at our tables. There have been plenty of diners who didn’t get further than a beverage on this show. It’s rare to make it all the way through the service and Guy and I were prepared to hit an In-N-Out Burger afterwards if necessary.

The maitre de passed our table and Guy asked him where he was from in Italy. They compared birth origins and bonded over their Italian heritage. With a final, “Prego” he resumed his duties.

And then course 1 arrived-our appetizers. We both chose a butternut squash soup instead of a red beet salad.

YUM. It was absolutely delicious. The presentation was delectable too-the warm orange shade of the soup was offset by a light green oil swirled throughout the soup and a nest of toasted nuts in the center. We ate every last bite.

Our amazing waitress never let our glasses get half empty. The service was excellent but they also need to keep glasses full for aesthetics for the cameras!

Time passed.

Camera men stealthily moved about from table to table as food came out to the guests so they could capture reactions.

And then our entrees arrived!

I had a filet with mashed potatoes and asparagus and Guy had sea bass with a bacon and navy bean broth with asparagus.  Filet Mignon is my absolute favorite meal so this was truly a blessing! Mine was cooked to perfection with savory gravy in an artful display on the plate. Guy’s sea bass was underwhelming-a bit overcooked and lacking in flavor. He comforted himself with bites of my filet. Ha!

We were pretty full at this point, but hoping dessert would come.

It did.

And wouldn’t you know it? Another of my favorites.

Molten chocolate cake with vanilla bean ice cream, macadamia nuts, and blueberries.

We died.

It. Was. So. Good.

With the first bite, the liquid chocolate spilled out like lava and the rest was history. I simply couldn’t finish the one last morsel lingering on my plate and I watched sadly as the waitress removed it from our table.

Then, a special surprise.

A nicely dressed man came to our table and told us that he heard we were on date night and that they wanted to offer us champagne! He assured us that they would be happy to take care of our car and call a taxi cab on them if we needed it. We wouldn’t need it-everything in moderation-but it was generous of them to offer!

Guy and I wanted coffee but we were stuffed to the gills at this point. Shortly after we finished our dessert and champagne, our wonderful waitress thanked us and let us know it was time to go.

We shimmied out of the elegant booth and made our way past the cameras and down the luxurious red carpet once again. We gave our ticket to the valet and shortly thereafter we drove away from Hell’s Kitchen, deeply satisfied and pampered. If you ever get the chance to be a part of the show, take it! It was a highlight for us and one of the best date nights we have ever had.  It may be called Hell’s Kitchen, but for us, it was heavenly.

Here I am outside the studio/restaurant. I was SO full!!!

Here I am outside the studio/restaurant. I was SO full!!!

Be sure to watch Hell’s Kitchen on Fox each week!!

YOUR TURN! Do you watch Hell’s Kitchen? Have you always wanted to dine under Gordon Ramsey’s protégés too? What surprised you about our experience? Have you ever been to a TV taping before?

Follow me on Facebook for more inspiration and discussion! Find me on Twitter: Amber Lia and Instagram: MotherOfKnights. Start pinning on Pinterest as well!

The Doctors Gave Up On My Son, But God Didn’t

10 Comments

 The Doctors Gave Up On My Son, But God Didn't

That first time he grabbed his head in agony, my heart filled with dread. As some of you may remember from this post about our son Quinn, we have been on a three year journey of medical issues since he was two years old.

After numerous doctors’ appointments, homeopathic remedies and oils, specialists, a pediatric neurologist, CAT scans, surgery to have tubes in his ears, and many a day and night writhing in agony from severe migraines, I was at my wit’s end this past Spring.

And then we decided to get a second opinion from one more ENT at Children’s Hospital in Los Angeles.

I sat in the ENT’s office as he told me that though my 4 year old’s sinus issues may indeed trigger his migraines, he didn’t want to pursue any kind of surgery…..…yet. He really couldn’t help me. Didn’t have any sure answers.

“Spray his nose with saline” the doctor suggested.

With that, I gathered our belongings and my precious boy and walked out of the hospital.

It was a fairly silent ride home as I pondered how in the world I was going to proceed to “fix” my son.

And as I groaned in my spirit to God, I asked Him, “Lord, what do I do now?”

His answer came almost immediately.

“Nothing, Amber.”

It was simple, but profound. I felt a deep sense of peace in my heart as I settled into the idea of being still. I felt that the Lord was asking me to stop pursuing the medical route at this time and to offer Quinn up to Him in totality, and to trust. As my Heavenly Father, He was asking me to relinquish my own child, to Him.

That week, the approval for Quinn’s next CAT scan arrived. I threw it in the trash.

The next month, his first ENT called to confirm his appointment. I cancelled it.

And we went about our lives.

Wouldn’t you know it? It’s now been almost a year since Quinn has had a severe migraine. He has had 3 or 4 small headaches that he is able to sleep off after a nap when in the past he would writhe in agony for hours, vomiting profusely, and be in pain for at least 24 hours.

I know that this is not always the way God works. But the lesson here for me personally is not that God will always heal us, but that in our human efforts we will often come to the end of the line, the bottom of the barrel, and at our wit’s end. Our limitations are nothing for God, however. He is all powerful-the One who holds the world in His hands! He knows the answer to every medical conundrum, and for all of life’s complexities.

I knew that what God wanted from me regarding Quinn was to admit that I did not know what to do, but that my eyes were on Him.

This is exactly what God desired from Jehoshaphat in the Old Testament when his enemies united against him to destroy the Israelites.

Annihilation was imminent. They had no way to protect themselves and defeat was a surety. Except, Jehoshaphat remembered God’s promises to Israel. In the moment of deepest need, he prayed:

10 “But now here are men from Ammon, Moab and Mount Seir, whose territory you would not allow Israel to invade when they came from Egypt; so they turned away from them and did not destroy them. 11 See how they are repaying us by coming to drive us out of the possession you gave us as an inheritance. 12 Our God, will you not judge them? For we have no power to face this vast army that is attacking us. We do not know what to do, but our eyes are on you.” 2 Chronicles 20:10-12

That’s just how I felt. Powerless.

Do you feel powerless today? Confused? Bewildered? Trapped? Uncertain?

Follow Jehoshaphat’s strategy. When you don’t know what to do, keep your eyes on your loving Father who knows all things and is all powerful.

Our Eyes Are On You

Victory came in an unorthodox way for the Israelites that day, despite their physical disadvantages. Take a look at the whole passage and see what I mean.

But in this day and age, we become self-reliant, don’t we?

With so many modern day conveniences at our fingertips we often rely on technology, experts, medicine, or the internet.

And yet God is the author of it all.

When we feel most at a loss to know what next steps to take, and when there seems to be no hope to be found in our circumstances, we are never truly at a loss. God knows what is best for us and He knows the path we should take.

You don’t need to worry about which house to buy. None of us needs to fear that difficult co-worker. We shouldn’t become discouraged by our spouse who doesn’t seem to change. And I don’t need to dissolve into hopelessness when the medical community can’t give me answers for my son.

Whatever worry has you up at night, lay it aside. Adjust your gaze from your problems to your Protector and keep your eyes on Him.

I don’t know what God has in store for my Quinn. But I don’t really need to know the outcome. I know that today, he is well. Today, I’m choosing to abide in Christ and be sensitive to the Holy Spirit’s leading, even when it doesn’t make earthly sense.

The prognosis for Quinn’s future is clear, despite what the doctors may say. It’s the same prognosis for all of us who are Christ-followers. When we rest in the goodness of God, we can’t go wrong and He will always give us both the wisdom and the direction we are seeking for any situation.

It’s a prescription you can always count on and never runs out.

YOUR TURN! We can admit that we don’t know what to do in a situation and ask God for help. I would love to pray for YOU today. Is there something on your heart and you just don’t know what to do about it? Share it here so we can pray for you!

Follow me on Facebook for more inspiration and discussion! Find me on Twitter: Amber Lia and Instagram: MotherOfKnights. Start pinning on Pinterest as well!

Stop Playing Negative Tapes In Your Head! Here’s How!

2 Comments

Stop Playing Negative Tapes In Your Head

The thoughts sneak in without fanfare. Just a whisper of an idea that seeks to destroy:

“He constantly puts work before you. You are not that important to him.”

“If you don’t homeschool her, she will not get a good education.”

“She has the perfect life. If you had made better decisions, your life would be easier too.”

“Just go buy the next size up already. It’s just another example of how unhealthy you are and your lack of self-control. The days of size 8 are long gone, sister.”

“Why are you even trying to build friendships with these people? No one will accept your invitation for dinner.”

“You have been speaking harshly to your kids for the last 5 years. It’s not going to change.”

“If you don’t control your kids’ every move, something terrible will happen to them and you will be all alone.”

“What’s wrong with you? Why can’t you just stick to a cleaning routine and put the laundry away in a timely manner? You are a failure in small things, so you must be a failure, period.”

“Your parents were right. You aren’t good for much.”

“He’s not a spiritual leader so your boys will never learn to lead their own wives Biblically.”

“She’s so good at her job. You, on the other hand, aren’t making much of an impact with your life. Maybe you need to put the kids in daycare and go back to work. Besides, the kids might be better off too since you aren’t that great of a mom.”

“Your to-do list is a mile long this week. There is no way you will accomplish everything you need to.”

“Your sons are so wild. Everyone thinks you are a bad mom.”

Do any of these thoughts sound familiar? Are these tapes playing in rotation in your head?

Take a moment and let the weight of just one of these thoughts sink in. How does it make you feel? What are the physical changes you experience when you believe these thoughts? Is your blood pumping? Is your heart dropping? Your head hanging? Or your spirit sagging?

Mine is.

But we really don’t have to turn up the volume on these lies. That’s what they are: lies.

And the best way to banish the bull is to call Satan’s bluff.

Here is a simple practice I gleaned from a recent message from author, Alan Fadling and two key questions to ask yourself that will change your thought life for good:

YOUR TURN! What do you think? Are your thoughts more like friends? Or enemies? Are you up for the challenge to try this for the next week? If this post blessed you, PLEASE, share it with others!

(For more on this topic and other Biblical thoughts on Sabbath, rhythms of rest, and ways to reprogram your heart and mind for peace, check out Alan Fadling’s new book, An Unhurried Life!)

Follow me on Facebook for more inspiration and discussion! Find me on Twitter: Amber Lia and Instagram: MotherOfKnights. Start pinning on Pinterest as well!

Things I LOVE and a GIVEAWAY!!!

28 Comments

Things I LOVE And A Giveaway

 

Many bloggers like to share their favorite gift items this time of year, and I do too! These are some of the items that make my life just that much more enjoyable. AND, I’m giving two of them away to YOU! Read to the end to enter! This post contains affiliate links where you can also read reviews about these items!

BEAUTY

Essie Nail Polish in Midnight Cami (And Ballet Slippers!)

Midnight Cami is the perfect color for Fall! It’s super rich and pretty! I tend to go for dark or bold colors for my pedicures!

Essie Midnight Cami

I also love a French manicure on my fingernails. I don’t love the price I pay for one at the salon, nor do I often have the time for that. Enter, the color Ballet Slippers! It’s my go-to polish 9 times out of 10 for manicures and it’s one of the brand’s top sellers! 

 

Maria Milanes, Hairstylist and Makeup Artist

Few people know me better than my friend Maria. She’s not just as sister in Christ-she makes me look my best too!! Maria was one of my bridesmaids and on my wedding day, she did my hair and makeup and then stood beside me as I said my vows to my husband. If I’m going to share some of my favorite things, the list is simply not complete without mentioning this talented woman!

AND if you live in Southern California or happen to be visiting, she is giving a major discount to new clients who make appointments at her Santa Clarita Valley location-20% off! Maria is available at her location in Porter Ranch as well!

Amber And Maria

I have never left Maria’s chair disappointed. She has been styling, and coloring my hair and doing my makeup for the last 10 plus years and her integrity, professionalism, commitment to ongoing growth as a stylist, passion for creating makeovers, and friendly approach makes her a must in my book! I just LOVE her!! Take a look at her websites here and here!

To make an appointment, call 818 363-5226 now so you can take advantage of her discount for the holidays!

Elnett Hairspray by L’oreal

Elnett Hairspray

The beauty of this hairspray is that it truly feels and looks natural for everyday hairdos. I have never found a spray that held my hair better while still feeling weightless. I use it every day! Well, every day I actually comb my hair!

FASHION

 Indu Earrings, Trades of Hope

THESE are everyday earrings for me! I LOVE them. Love. Them. But the products from Trades of Hope are not just eye candy!

Indu Earrings

When you buy these earrings or many other fashion and household items, you can change the world just by shopping – your purchases from Trades of Hope will help these artisans feed their families, put a roof over their heads, send their children to school, and step out of poverty. What better purchase than one that does GOOD towards others too!

Go ahead and shop here to support this wonderful cause: www.mytradesofhope.com/parties/6561

Michael Kors Satchel

If you are going to invest in one great bag, let it be from Michael Kors. It will last long after the cows come home. Superior quality and endless style, these are my all time favorite purses worth saving for! Seriously gorgeous.

Michael Kors Purse

 

Leopard Print Scarf

I wear mine with almost everything. In my humble opinion, a leopard print scarf is chic and effortless. Throw one on over a black dress or with a t-shirt and jeans. It comes in a beautiful brown color too!

Leopard Print Scarf

 

FOOD

Iveta Gourmet Cherry Scones

It was Christmas. My cousin handed me the gift box and what was inside would change my life. Okay, that’s a little bit of an exaggeration. But it does convey how much I LOVE THESE SCONES! They are absolutely heavenly! If you don’t believe me, believe Oprah. They are on her list of favorite things too! You can try the gluten free version of other flavors as well!

Iveta Gourmet Cherry Scones

 

Ezekiel 4:9 Sprouted Grain Tortillas

I bought these reluctantly. I was certain the first bite would taste like dirty cardboard. I have never been so wrong in my life! We devour these in our house-no GMO’s, no preservatives, certified organic grains, and 100% goodness! Do yourself a favor and buy a stack to keep in your freezer and then pull them out as needed!

Ezekiel Sprouted Grain Tortillas

BOOKS

For The Love of God, A Woman’s Guide to Finding Faith and Getting Grace by Jenny Lee Sulpizio

For The Love Of God

This book is a new release and I absolutely LOVE the heart behind it’s message:

Being new is never easy–especially when it comes to finding your faith. But you don’t need a big neon sign to point the way to God. Instead, you need a friend to tell it to you straight, equip you with information, and provide some much-needed encouragement along the way. Indeed, you need guidance from a woman who has already walked a mile in your shoes. 

Jenny Lee Sulpizio invites you to silence those doubts, experience God’s grace, and breathe in the unconditional love you were always meant to know. It’s a guide for women unsure of their Creator, in search of answers, and interested in pursuing a genuine relationship with the Lord. Because this walk with God–this journey with Jesus? It’s about to change everything.”

 

The Pioneer Woman Cooks: A Year of Holidays

A Year Of Holidays

Ree Drummond’s A Year of Holidays cookbook highlights meals for every occasion. I usually don’t need a good reason to make fun food, but this cookbook pushes me over the edge. The step-by-step pictures make cooking and baking fool-proof. Love it!

 

The Purpose Driven Life by Rick Warren

 The Purpose Driven Life

If I had to choose only one non-fiction book to read besides the Bible, for the rest of my life, it would be this one. Easy to read, Biblically sound, and full of encouragement. It answers the question, “What on earth am I here for?” I can’t recommend it highly enough!

 

HOUSEWARES

Wilton 8 X 3 inch Cake Pans

Wilton Cake Pans

I use these 8 inch round cake pans to make my famous triple layer triple chocolate fudge cake-so I have 3 of them! This size can be hard to find in stores. These guys get used on frequent rotation since chocolate cake is my boys favorite treat and of course, their first request for birthday parties! Here’s a picture of a cake I baked and decorated for my son’s “Camp Out” birthday party this week-isn’t it sooooo cute?!

 

Camp Out Cake

 

“Leaves” Bath N Body Works Candle

Leaves Candle

My closest friends will tell you that I am obsessed with the “Leaves” candle from Bath N Body Works. NO OTHER SCENT compares. It’s absolutely the most perfect candle EVER.  I love how these 3 wick candles burn evenly and last forever!

GIVEAWAY!!!

I’m giving away author, Jenny Lee Sulpizio’s book AND a bottle of Essie nail polish to one blessed reader!

TO ENTER TO WIN, simply leave a comment here telling me about one of your all time favorite things! To receive a second entry, share this post and let me know in the comments section! The contest will end at midnight on November 30th and I will notify the winner via email!

YOUR TURN! What is one of your favorite things? :) 

 

Follow me on Facebook for more inspiration and discussion! Find me on Twitter: Amber Lia and Instagram: MotherOfKnights. Start pinning on Pinterest as well!